Be a good girl.
Don't cry.
What's wrong with you?
Why are you always angry?
Aren't you over that yet?
 
As women, we get all sorts of messages from when we are tiny little girls about how we are meant to behave. Or what not to do. To be a good girl. To not show our true feelings because it'll upset someone else. 
 
But what happens to us when we suppress those feelings? When we don't have a healthy way of dealing with them? When all we do is push them down further every time they dare to bubble up?
 
We get women who are disconnected from themselves. Who don't know what they are feeling. Who don't know what they want because they've never been asked or even thought to ask themselves. Who keep thinking and thinking and thinking but never really deal with the underlying causes. 
 
Women are allowed to feel and be the entire range of the 88 keys of a piano. They DO NOT need to stay within the 5 or so “acceptable” keys. You are allowed, hell, you NEED to, feel the entire range of your emotions. The rage, the fear, the grief, the sadness, the p*ssed offness, the joy, the happiness, the turn on, your radiance. But how do we do that?
 
As part of my coaching training, I have been learning about ways to help you feel into those emotions in a safe controlled way. It's called Swamping. Here is a Spotify playlist for you to use to move through the Swamping practice.
 
Swamping is a practice where you first tap into all the shitty heavy feelings you have going on - you might like to start by focusing in on a particular event, for instance an interaction you had with a work colleague or at Centrelink or with your partner or your kids. Get into that Rage and then press play on your playlist and start moving with it. Punch a pillow, jump up and down, throw a tantrum like a 2 yo, scream. Do what ever it is that you need to to move that angry energy through your body. 
 
Then you move into Grief. Quite often our rage is disguised as grief. Feel that sadness in your body and move with it in the way your body needs to move with it. Cry if you want to. Wail if you can. 
 
Finally, you move into Turn On. Into bringing yourself back to yourself. Back to your inner light, your inner radiance. Gently caress your body, your face. Move your hips. Find the most pleasurable way to move your body right now. You are a Goddess in her most radiant power. Feel that. BE THAT. 
 
Have a go at Swamping and let me know how you go. If you have any questions about Swamping, please feel free to ask away. 

​I love the warmer weather. I'm not a huge fan of shoes at home and once it starts to warm up, I'm barefoot outside as much as possible. Feeling into the ground, getting dirty and being closer to nature. 
 
As I age, I am embracing this side of myself, the one that is supremely happy being dirty, not wearing much and relishing the sunshine. The inner child who just wants to make mud pies or mud angels or stomp her feet in puddles. The more I allow myself to play, to give myself permission to follow my intuition, the more I enjoy each and every day. 
 
I remind myself that we are only on this earth for a short time. I can find joy in each and everything I do as long as I remember to look for it. A nice simple way of doing this is to change your phrasing around tasks that you don't particularly enjoy. 
 
For instance, instead of “I have to do the dishes” try using “I get to… ”. You get to do the dishes because you have a home, a kitchen and food in the fridge. 
 
“I have to do my tax” becomes “I get to do my tax” because I receive an income which allows me to live in comfort. 
 
“I have to take the kids to soccer" becomes “I get to take the kids to soccer” because they enjoy it and I have the money for them to be able to play sport.
 
So what do you “get to” do today? I'd love to hear how you've been able to rephrase one of your less than desirable tasks, comment below to let me know.