NO is a complete answer

When was the last time you prioritised your pleasure over what is expected of you? When you listened to what it was that YOU wanted rather than someone else's ideas? When you picked YOU over everyone else?
 
So many women are people pleasers. We feel that we need to care for everyone else and make sure that they are happy regardless of what we want or how we feel. We don't honour our "NO" because the other person might get upset or be unhappy with that response. 
 
And then sadly, if we do honour our “NO” it's often not respected as a whole answer. You never have to justify or explain your reason to someone for saying “NO”.

​“NO” is and has always been a whole answer. 
 
Standing for your boundaries, standing for what it is that you want, being in your power has historically been frowned on for women. We've come a long way from being regarded as the property of our fathers and then the property of our husbands. BUT there still is a lot of push back on women taking their own power and agency over their own lives and bodies.

It seems as though no matter what we do, someone will have something to say about it. I am working towards, and am helping women to demand it, of a world where we can do what makes us happy without comment.

Keep your own last name. Change your last name. Not getting married. Getting married. Not having kids. Having kids. Returning to work after having kids. Not returning to work after having kids. Having multiple lovers. Being celibate. Drinking. Not drinking. Travelling the world solo. Doing yoga eight times a week. Not exercising. Taking pole dancing classes. Wearing a bra. Not wearing a bra. Leaving your body hair where it is. Removing your body hair. Having your nails done. Having a boob job. Sunbathing nude. Dancing in the moonlight howling at the moon. 
 
My dream is that as you read this post you start to see ways how you can honour what it is that YOU want. Because life is far too damn short to care about what other people think about what you are doing!